There are really this kind of unreasonable, despicable people around just like my ex husband who really tries to make things difficult for the other party.
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In the newspaper today.....
His side of the story:The court ruling for his divorce allowed him access to the children during Chinese New Year, the school holidays and every Sunday.He was also given overnight access to his son every two weeks.The children now live with his ex-wife in her parents' home.After the divorce, he visited their home once a month but each time,he claimed, he was denied access.'They would come up with different excuses, saying that the childrenwere not in or that the kids didn't wish to see me,' he said.'Sometimes, they would just not answer my phone calls.'Yet, when he did get through to the children by phone, Alex claimed thechildren told him how much they missed him.

He showed The New Paper a police report he made on 9 Feb 2001.It was his birthday and Alex had planned to take the children out for ice-cream.He said he gave his ex-wife three days' notice. But, on the day itself,Alex called the house unsuccessfully from 11am to 6.15pm.
His ex-wife refused to grant him access to his children, he claimed.'I may not have been the perfect father but does that mean I mustlose my children?' he asked, as tears welled.'It's painful if I continue seeing my children. It's painful if I stop seeing them.''Sometimes, I think that I should just forget they were ever my children.'

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Sigh... i fully understand his feelings when being faced with this kind of situation.
Read this in a flyer in the Family Court

What kind of things are especially damaging for children?
-not spending enough time with both parents
-parents using children to carry messages to each other
-parents using children to carry messages to each other
-parents who cannot cooperate with each other
-children being made to believe one parent is good and the other is bad
-children not feeling free to love both parents
-parents burdening children with adult problems

These are the things that the idiot has done.... he is guilty of all charges. As he do not read and is uneducated... so i guess i got to throw all these in his face. Uneducated idiot is what he is.

It is important that netiher parent verbally or physically attacks the other parent in front of their children.
Which he is guilty of this again.

Continuing anger or bitterness towards your former spouse can injure your children far more than the divorce itself.
The feelings that he showed are more important than the words he speak. That idiot is guilty again.Sigh... all these are written in self help books all the time. And that uneducated idiot obviously has not done any reading and doing things that he thinks which is correct and it is wrong.

Children need to be given permission to love, enjoy and spend time with both parents.
If a child consistently refuses contact, then family counselling should be considered.
Sleeping over in each parent's home shoule be encouraged.

They need reassurance that they need permission to love both parents....

I guess i have nothing to say about that idiot's actions anymore. He is guilty of all charges which you can read about. An uneducated loser he has always been ... every since i know him. And i guess with my thousand plus eyesight really makes me blink for 2 years of dating time and 1 year of marriage....to get out of the hell hole.