It's just such a hard job to undo a lifetime of brainwashing...

Alot of things have been going through my mind during this period of time. And i wonder why people especially that idiot behaves that way. Cos i can never stand in the shoes of him as i have never been such an idiot before. Maybe when i got married to him. I was in his shoes for a while before i wake up.

First, why does he feel the need to brain wash my son?

- for fear that son will choose me. Or he can see that he will lose custody of the kid in the near future if he doesn't brain wash. Guess it is fear of losing the son... that is why he chose to brain wash thus hurting the son emotionally and scarring him for life.

Second, why does he behave so immorally?

- cos he doesn't have a father beside him or a figure of authority over him to tell him that whatever he does is morally wrong and it is bad for raphael. Sometimes, i pity him. For the way he was brought up. In a family that is not whole, not loving, not close. With no father around him then and now. And all he does when his father comes back for a week or month is to wayang and be on his best behaviour and not let his father knows what he has been up to when he is not around. Pity.. is all i have for him.

Lastly, why does he need to be so hostile to me when the gf is around?

- he is under the support of his gf. Giving him little little cash to tide him thru and of course sexual favours when he is stress up. Which he didn't and cannot get from me. Anyway, the gf is out of job so i guess the sexual favours are the main thing. And how can he afford to displeases his girl.. when no one wants him except this one...

Both deserves each other as both are as ignorant, with family problems, uneducated, childish, insecure and equally despicable.

It is only my son whom i am the most concern. Who is currently being brought up in a family which has family ties so messy. Father in law having affairs most of the time. And the worst of it all, with a child who is of the same age as his own grandson. How ironic! With my mother in law being kept in the dark about the idiot's life ... cos he always tell lies to his mother on his whereabouts. Eg. when he was out with me, he always tell his mother that he is working. And the mother stupidly believes all the time.Now, she said that he has only one gf. How did she know? Just because he brought one girl back? Who can be so naive?

Disgraceful is the word to describe that family.